How to kick your codependent behaviour

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Have you ever noticed some people have relationships where they support each other’s goals, whilst others seem so dependent on each other, any other goal outside their relationship is impossible? This might be codependency.

In many codependent relationships we see one person sacrificing their wants and needs to protect (or negatively enable) the other person. The enabler can sometimes lose themselves in this process, becoming so focused on the relationship they often don’t see the harm their behaviour is doing to themselves and the other person.

So how do we become less codependent and more interdependent?

  • Support the other person’s goals but don’t take over
  • Be mindful of your own goals and keep heading towards them
  • Listen to the other person, help them if needed but don’t take on every part of their life as your own
  • Encourage the other person to have healthy relationships and ensure you cultivate your own other relationships
  • Set boundaries if needed, remember neither of you gets the best out of codependency.

Have any tips to help us avoid becoming too codependent? Tell us in the comments.

If you live your life to please everyone else, you will continue to feel frustrated and powerless.

Beverly Engel


4 thoughts on “How to kick your codependent behaviour

  1. Great post! I like all these tips 🙂 this is an important topic to discuss. Another tip I would give is to be honest with the other person when there are signs of codependency, talking it out can help so much. Thanks for sharing!

    Feel free to read some of my blogs 🙂

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    1. Yeah that’s a great tip, I think sometimes we may not even realise it’s happening so talking is a great way help 👍 thanks for this comment, I’ll definitely have a look at yours 😊


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