You imposter!

Have you ever been in a meeting and you think all the other people in the room know so much more than you, and they all seem so much more sure of their knowledge, but then they all look to you for the answer to a question? And you wonder why? You may be experiencing “imposter syndrome”. Read on to understand it more and help yourself worry about it less.

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Apparently many people experience “imposter syndrome”, where even though they may have received awards and honours for their particular work or art, they still think they don’t deserve the accolades. They think they will be “found out”, and someone will realise they don’t know it all, they don’t have all the answers, and they still have room to learn.

What they don’t realise is lots of other people are also feeling this way. If you think about it, many of us rarely voice this self doubt, and in turn we don’t hear from it others. So we are unaware that we are not alone.

Next time you think you shouldn’t be in your position, or undeserving of praise and acknowledgement, try these tips:

  • be aware of your feelings, notice when you are telling yourself you are not worthy, and tell yourself why you are (“yes, I may not know everything, but I have completed a University degree in this subject so am pretty knowledgable“, or “my year of experience in this job has taught me a lot, I’ve got helpful information to share“)
  • talk to others about your feelings, ask them if they have ever experienced anything similar and have a conversation
  • ask for feedback when you complete a task, a piece of work, etc., you may be surprised what other people think of your work
  • know that sometimes you will be in situations where you don’t have the answers, but that is okay, nobody was born with all the answers, just take the moment to learn and grow
  • revisit your past accomplishments, work experiences, art work, etc., and don’t down play what you have done, rather, celebrate it, remember you completed these accomplishments and you are unique.

It’s okay to be out of your depth sometimes, so long as you don’t freeze, so long as you harness the situation…and try to turn it into a force for good.

Mike Cannon-Brookes

Have you ever experienced imposter syndrome?

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25 thoughts on “You imposter!

  1. This is very interesting!! I feel like this more often than I’d like to admit and have to tell myself I’m not an imposter, even though I don’t have all the answers, I have to tell myself to not have low self esteem. I’m not wording this well, but I think you know what I mean. Well, I’ve never heard it described as imposter syndrome, but that’s exactly what it feels like. Now it’s nice to know I’m not alone with these feelings! ๐Ÿ˜„

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    1. Thanks for this comment, I totally agree with you, when we donโ€™t have all the answers it might make us feel like imposters but we donโ€™t have to believe that, we can see it as a time to learn even more on the subject to add to our knowledge. Yes nice to know lots of people think this way!

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  2. I really do love this post because this is something I struggle with a lot. Maybe not as much as I used to, because Iโ€™m trying to break the habit, but sometimes it feels as if I am not qualified to do or say something. Iโ€™ve held back sharing my talents or experiences because of this problem for a long time. Working on changing that now. โ˜บ๏ธ Thank you for this insightful post! Itโ€™s really good to know we are not alone in this feeling. ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ

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    1. Thanks for this comment ๐Ÿ˜Š Iโ€™m so glad you are changing that belief. Iโ€™m trying too! And even if it still creeps in we know itโ€™s something we can acknowledge and move forward regardless, and we arenโ€™t alone.

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  3. Wonderful tips, Kellie. And very timely advice for me. I have been experiencing “imposter syndrome” on my runs. Even though I have been running for a long time, I have been feeling like such an imposter lately. I am going to remember to revisit my past accomplishments the next time anxiety strikes.

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  4. Yes to your question! I often feel this way, second guess myself and feel like a bit of a fraud. But your tips here are great and spot on. We have to remember how far weโ€™ve come. ๐Ÿ™‚

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